Doubters and Haters

I wanted to address a topic that has been on my mind in recent months. Not only have I been experiencing some sense of doubt, but I also wanted to shed light on what doubt actually is. For many, doubt is this distinct emotion or feeling we don't always show. Webster's Dictionary defines "doubt" as " a deliberate suspension of judgment." I would say this feeling is more of a lingering emotion put onto another person to make them feel less capable of a specific goal or action. In simple terms, it's just some real hate sh...... But while the idea of self-doubt definitely exists, and that could be a topic for another time, I'm more going to be talking about how doubts put on by other people (haters) are simply just an inactive and honestly wasteful use of energy that should never be done.

Truly Understanding Hater Nature:

Let me start by saying, "I LOVE HATERS." That might be a weird thing to say. At the end of the day, it is simply a person rooting against you. Why would that be a fun thing to have? Because when people hate you, they merely envy the things they wish they had that are seen in you. In other words, it is judgment in an attempt to pull you down. While some would be mad at this state of feeling, I take this negative energy as a compliment. It means that I'm doing something in my respective field that others can't do as well. And I'm not here to act like I'm perfect and have it all figured out. Because that would just be a straight lie. I'm not perfect. And I fail every day. But through that failure, I learn to be better. That is what true growth is about.

I know this is a challenging concept to accept for most, but learning to embrace negativity and find ways to make it constructive for your personal growth is key. Falling to others' negativity and matching it will not do anything. Always take a step back and analyze the person from whom you're receiving hate. And don't take things so personally. This concept is one of the hardest things I've been dealing with recently. Still, with growth and development, I can be better at it.

The Craziest Anomaly of Haters:

What I love most about haters and those who doubt you in this life is that some will actually sit there, act like your friend, and respect you. But when you least expect it, turn around and disrespect you entirely once you walk away. It's one of the funniest things to see and makes you question how intentional you can be with the time you give certain people. There are many people in this life to whom you want to give your time. That deep down, you believe will respect and support you. But in the end, they leave you when you need them the most. It's a hard reality, but sometimes it is the truth.

What do you do about haters?

I suggest simply embracing it. Rather than trying to reason with why they hate you, just understand that that is just how some people are. Some people just can't show you love and care. And that is ok. But the biggest lesson I can learn daily is not taking it so personally. That way, you avoid a lot of unnecessary emotions and feelings. Ultimately, you can continue to work hard and prove those same people wrong. That is genuinely how you outgrow haters. You can't change them, so you might as well embrace them.

3 Things to Remember about Haters:

1. Sometimes it's not personal. Don't invest too much time into it

2. If you are being hated on, chances are you are probably doing something right to a certain degree; of course

3. Learn to instead match their negativity, learn to grow and blossom from it